Meet Alison Chase. She is a woman I met through my website Ex in the City who is described as an actress, tv host and commercial talent - she is the founder of a great new website called Wake Up to a Breakup and is kicking off a new TV show that she describes as 'a show devoted to understanding how men and women get along, or in this case, how they don't. If you have ever been dumped, think your relationship is in trouble, or you are still pinning away for your Ex, you've come to the right place.' Check it out, its very unique and incredibly informative.
But more of that later...and a little backgroud on my website Ex in the City.
Well in case you haven't figured it out, I am the 'goddess of ex' . I lovingly created a website called Ex In The City way back 5 years ago when I thought that suicide was the only way I was ever going to stop crying after my divorce. It was really a little pathetic and I am certainly glad that sanity prevailed and I put down the sleeping pills. I just finished reading the most amazing, transformative book in my life - Atlas Shrugged - by Ann Rand and have a very different appreciation (yes I did say appreciation) of why my husband decided to leave me.
For a long time I selfishly thought that my divorce was all about ME. One does this of course and its perfectly normal. I droned on - what had I done wrong, what could I have done better, differently. What was wrong with ME? Was I too old, was I too boring, too conservative, ugly? My mind did mental gymnastics around how I was totally to blame for something that was really all about him. And I mean that is the most positive way I can explain. You see the book is in my opinion, ultimately all about being truthful to yourself and living your life, manifesting your dreams, as a reflection of your values. That all sounds very easy but its actually a little more difficult than it sounds. Because first of all you have to figure out what your values are and then do a sanity check against 'truth' and then and only then act on your values. My ex husband was acting (bravely) on HIS values - moving forward in his life because I no longer aligned with them. No one was really to blame. It took a lot of courage for him to admit to himself that to survive truthfully in the world, he had to change the reality of his life. It had slipped away from his values (and don't attach judgement here is the secret I discovered with the book). Just know that we were no longer travelers with the same values moving in the same direction. So anyway that's my realization of the year and trust me it has liberated me beyond belief. So on that curve of EXile, EXpress, EXorcise, EXplore and EXhale...I hover between EXplore and EXhale - and some days don't even feel 'divorced' because that assumes i felt attached in the first place. Way beyond that thank goodness!
So Ex in the City is taking a little rest while I decide what's next...but Divorce Diva continues to ramble on. Anyway, a website called Wake Up To a Breakup has decided that Ex in the City is actually still a pretty good site and has included us (YAY and thank you!!) on their website and in fact we are in pretty amazing company
Here's the blurb
Believe it or not, the term “relationships” has 189 million hits on Google. To be sure, it’s a crowded space out there. And if you’re looking for relationship advice, you may just get lost. That’s why we’ve done your research for you, to turn up the top sites and blogs for the lovelorn. It’s a good thing, because getting dumped leaves us asking a lot questions.
Ex in the City
The Site (Sex and Relationships)
Don't Date Him Girl
50 Ways to Leave Your Lover
Break Up Girl
Boy Friend Replacement
My Ex Hates Me
Alison Chase is the Founder and host of a tv show called Wake Up to a Breakup and is going to be featuring Ex in the City in an upcoming show. So thank you Alison - wish you all the very best with your new venture! And thank you for rating Ex so high - glad to be of help to any women dealing with what I went through - there is light, trust me.